Out of many, One People.

So, as my journey continues, my path to mental freedom from the past, as mentioned in the post before this one, today i spent some time with 2 of my best friends and their cousin.

Now, i haven't seen these guys in a while, for a variety of reasons, but we stay in touch, you know, just doing what friends do, living our own live's but always keeping eachother informed on what's happening in our lives.

I refrained from telling the about what i told you guys in my previous post, until today.

They both brought me back down to Earth, so to speak, letting me know that no matter how long we're away from eachother, when we all congregate once more, regardless of circumstance or endeavour, we got eachothers back.

So, that was my inspiration for this post, having a team of friends around you, a small team, that united you stand, united you fall. Nowadays i see alot of people wanting to have alot of friends, but not really having good, reliable, honest friends, there for eachother when the shit gets real.

Its funny coz today, before we all met i was listening to a song, and there's a lyric in it i wanna share with you guys:

"Nowadays, your circle should be small as hell,

Ain't trying to meet new faces, this don't interest me,

Even if we bubble slow, we get it eventually."

And that's when i put two & two "twogether" so to speak. I have my team, though it may be small, we stand strong, we stand proud, and we stand tall, and when one of us is down, the other two are there to hold them up, no matter what.

I'm not saying only have two friends, not at all, all i'm saying is be very aware of the company you keep, because when the load gets heavy, there are very few willing to carry the burden with you, those are the few you should have in your circle.

"Out of Many, We are One People"

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you made it real for me.

hey guys, haven't been on here in what seems like forever, adjusting to this new, "non-student" life i guess.

going through some major changes right now, which is probably why i haven't been on here recently.

I wanna share something with you real quick coz, as you know, writing is my outlet for all things cerebral.

I recently decided to stop being in contact with someone, someone who i love, and someone who in the grand scheme of things, made my year.

How am i going to get rid of her? She's there, like an omnipresent being, even though she's hundreds of miles away from home, making a new life for herself, making a new love for herself, its the thought of not having her in my life, in the capacity of which i'd like her to be, that i'm finding the hardest thing, do i have to do this? Absolutely.

Its that ever-present question that we all find at more than one point in our lives:

How do I move on?

is there an answer to this question?
is there a formula to the solution?

Life has taught me that time is the greatest healer, but time is a slow bitch and she takes her own, well....time.

This a little crazy coz it's been less than two weeks since i decided to cut her out of my life, but it seems like it's been two years, i can't tell her how much i miss her, because i'd be breaking the promise i made to myself, to just let her live her life.

If any of you out there have recently left the life of someone who you love/loved, and you're finding this shit to much to deal with, stay strong, it only gets easier, you're not the only one going through it, and believe me, you will get through it, if not, start a blog and then you can moan about it just like me.

is all ever fair n love and war??

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To tweet or not to tweet

That is the question.

See, I've become a lot more active on my Twitter of late, mainly coz I'm getting pretty bored of Facebook and mainly coz I'm trying new angles of meeting people in industry who i can network with to maybe find a new job, it's 2010, this is the way people network these days, so I'm told.

Anyway, I've also decided to try something new, to improve my writing skills, more specifically my comedy writing, which is something I've been able to do verbally, but not write stuff down and actually BE funny.

Now i know what you're thinking, "how hard can it be to write something funny?" it is among the most difficult things I've ever attempted to do in the entire time I've been writing. 

So i started thinking about my life and the world around me and what makes me laugh on a daily basis, and it hit me, there are things we all find funny, but that we never notice as being universally funny.

Like when someone is running for the train you're on, and they're at full speed, and you're sitting there thinking to yourself, he's never gonna make it, and JUST as he gets to the train, the doors go, "beep beep beep beep beep beep, pshhhhhhhh" and they slam shut in his face, to me that's hilarious, and I've brought this up with friends, and everyone has their own story of when it happened to them, and when they watched it happen to someone else, and so that's what i started writing about, everyday moments of hilarity, hence my tips for summer 2010

Now, I've also started hopping on Trending Topics or #TT's as they're called in the Twitterverse, and again, I've been getting good feedback on my tweets, some of the tweets I haven't been actively trying to be funny, it's just me mad at the world for things that need to stop, thanks to everyone who found my tweets funny, I appreciate you all.

Now I'm faced with a dilemma, in the name of comedy, how far do I go?

I mean they're only tweets right, and tomorrow they'll be forgotten but now it's like whenever a new #TT comes up, I have this almost overwhelming urge to go farther than I've been before, maybe that's a good thing, pushing my imagination into the farthest corner of my ever-expanding mind to create something out of nothing in 140 characters.

which leads me to my last intrapersonal question "What would Richard do?"

"whatever the fuck make the people laugh, say that shit" Richard Pryor

tips for summer 2010

last summer i realised a few things that i do not want to see this summer, so for those of you who are unfamiliar with the correct summer etiquette, this post is for you.


Inspired from my twitter and facebook.

#1 - listen up folks, this summer, if you know your feet look like you've been walking in Jerusalem, DO NOT wear open toe shoes....i'm just saying.

#2 - DO NOT use the underground if you know you sweat a lot. I can't hold my breath for more than one stop

#3 - Your lips WILL get dry in this heat, Carmex goes a long way people, lips looking like biltong. kmt

#4 - deodorant is cheap, buy some

#5 - ladies, shave/pluck/wax your underarms, i DO NOT want to see your ashy pits...true story.

#6 - guys, hoodies, trackies and timberlands are for winter, please stop, its not "gangsta"

#7 - skinny jeans in winter was a pandemic, but cycling shorts are NOT acceptable guys...just say no.

#8 - you're wearing all white? that's fine, at least let it be clean whiter than white bright, clothes looking the colour of chewing gum is NOT cool.

#9 - sunglasses are for outdoors, this shit needs to stop, idiots.

#10 - remember it is bloody hot, so if you're drinking in the sun, you r going to get drunker quicker, let's be responsible alcoholics folks. :o)

#11 - Red wine in excess WILL make you throw up....as displayed last night.

#12 - baby wipes are not just for babies.

#13 if any guy u know wear Brut, Joop or Old Spice, tell him to jog on...actually, that's a tip for life, not just Summer.

#14 - bad breath, especially that 'hungry' breath, is not a good look, Tic Tacs, Soft Mints or Airwaves are all very affordable.

#15 - fishnet anything is not gonna happen, I don't care how much Cindy Lauper told you it was ok, its not.

#16 - if you are going to Carnival, expect to be manhandled, groped, pushed, shoved, stepped on and have your personal space invaded.

#17 - you know you have ugly feet, I know you have ugly feet, so let's save my disgust and your embarrassment and how about you keep your claws in your shoes when you're on public transport?

just thought i'd share some wisdom, if you agree pass them on.

you got any tips for me, fee free to leave a comment.

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when patience turns into anger.

Nothing Remains

Most of the people who know me well may have never known me to get angry at anything, because rarely is there anything that i can say angers me, I live a calm existence, spiritually, mentally and physically, but here goes.


Tonight i realised that some people just don't give a fuck about anyone else but themselves, that the old saying "do unto others as they do unto you", is 
something I shall be putting into practice with immediate effect.


Today I realised that sometimes the people who you've long suspected to be selfish, actually are. Unashamedly so. I have learned a lot from my friends, they've been with me through some great times and through some not so great times, and those are the friends i want to keep. The ones of which i speak are those who shall learn what it is like to be ignored, to be shown that the way you treat others is the way you should expect to be treated.


For the longest time, with those that I actually care about, I've stayed in touch, a call or a text just to see how my friends are doing, as all friends should do. But when the reality of it all hits you, like a speeding train, it is sometimes not what you expect.
For me right now, in this moment of clarity, I am angry yet relieved I've come to know of their behaviour sooner rather than later.


I once wrote a piece of script for a 2min film I made about myself in my first year of university, the module was called "self branding" and in this video I wrote a line that I will use now...
"when my friends turn to foes, I shall become the one whom their mother warned them about"


To those reading this, if you feel this relates to you, then it probably does.
To those reading this that feel they're being treated similarly, by me or by anyone else, treat them accordingly.

"I'd rather be hated for something i am, 

than loved for something i am not"

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Do the math?

The motivation for most of my blogs comes from my own life, but sometimes other people’s lives are so much more interesting aren’t they?

This morning, on a beautiful summer morning in London, I was on my Blackberry Messenger talking to a friend of mine about her status, which just so happened to be unrelated to a little dilemma she has going on at the moment.

The dilemma I’m sure a lot of us have faced before, a dilemma with its own pros and cons, and I can kinda relate to it too in more ways than one.

My friend, who shall remain nameless, was telling me about how she met a guy in the city, and he’s everything you expect from a “city boy” he’ “arrogant, loaded, fucking gorgeous and makes me feel like Carrie Bradshaw”

Now I don’t proclaim to be the all-knowing guru when it comes to women, I know my fair share, but what I do know is that all women want to feel like Carrie Bradshaw, right?

Her dilemma begins here because the possibility of getting back together with her ex-boyfriend of 5 years is also on the cards. Her ex-boyfriend who she says is “the guy who knows me better than I know myself” “very safe” and “makes me feel more like Charlotte in SATC”

So here’s the situation she’s in, she’s currently giving the city boy a trial run, see where things go, who knows? But at the same time, there is the lingering possibility of her reigniting something she shared with another person for 5 years of her life.

This is where I got the impetus for this post, the familiar Vs the unknown.

Do you take the well beaten path, the one you know every curve and pebble on, the path which you walked everyday, back and forth for 5 years of your life, blissfully unaware that one day it would end?

Or, do you choose to walk a new path, the road less travelled by many, the road that has surprises in store for you that you might never know unless you take a chance, because we’re all afraid of change sometimes.

I’m a little biased here, I must confess, I am a cheerleader for the unknown, so keep that in mind.

I think, that when it comes to new opportunity, it should always be considered, even though old circumstance still looms. To feel safe and secure is a wonderful thing, it always is, but we all know of pivotal points in our life where we can look back on them and know that THAT was the moment I decided to change my life, that was the moment I decided to truly experience what life is about, finding new ways of living, new ways of expanding your love, your life, your mind.

So what would you do?

I wanna leave you with one of my favourite quotes, I think it applies here:

“if people aren’t multiplying you, they’re dividing you, if they’re not adding to you, they’re subtracting from you – do the math”

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One night in Brussels

so today I'm at work, normal day, I'm a little tired, but it's going alright because there are loads of things to do.

we had one of our maintenance guys come in, who I've never met before, lets call him Pete.

So Pete and i start talking and he's asking me what I studied at university, turns out he used to work for very big ad agencies in London as a copper print/press engineer, for those that don't know, that's how they "photoshopped" ads before computers.

Anyway, Pete starts telling us his life story about how he went to the army and what a great experience it was for him, the man is so intelligent it was almost scary.

But what struck me most was how he left the army after 3 years.

One night him and some colleagues went out in Brussels because that's where they were stationed, he didn't mention the town/city. So he says him and his mates were having a regular lads night out and they met some girls in the bar they were in, but Pete was interested in the waitress, so as the night goes on, he's speaking to her more and more, and after her shift, they all go out clubbing.

2 days after a long weekend just him and her, they're all at the port saying goodbye, when she asks Pete to stay another day, he agrees and tells his commanding officer he's staying another day and will be back the following day...this next part is where i got the motivation for this post.

Pete then tells us, he didn't go back the next day, in fact he didn't go back to the army, 12years later he was married with 2 kids and living in Belgium.

Now if you don't know, it's illegal to leave the army before your tour is over, and also before your 4 years minimum mandatory service is up.

Pete received a court martial when he got caught trying to renew his passport, he got fined £1800 and stripped of his rank and medals he received in the army. Funny thing is, Pete said he wouldn't change anything he did for the world.

Now that's where i thought, "that is how i'm gonna be, "no regrets", because sometimes, you just know that what lies before you, is far more important than what lies ahead of you, and you have to seize the day, as they say.

I think there's a lesson there, that from this short 10minute story that had our whole office captivated (you had to be there) there is always something worth sacrificing the life you live for, I'm not saying it has to be a man or woman, but just something you know deep down, is everything you've always wanted, it might even be right in front of you right now, grab it with both hands, because there is no time like the present.

Pete had so much to tell us and share with us, that we barely even noticed he'd been talking to us for a good hour and a half, all of the guys in my office are under 27, and after he left, all of us took different things away from his stories, but the one thing we all had for Pete was admiration.

which leads me to my status i had on my facebook first thing this morning,

"After i'm dead I'd rather have people ask 

why I have no monument than why I have one."

i think that right there, was meant for people like Pete...a man whom if i never see again, i will always ask why he has no monument.

Pete, a salute from Idontliketea.

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