23 June 2010

Do the math?

The motivation for most of my blogs comes from my own life, but sometimes other people’s lives are so much more interesting aren’t they?
This morning, on a beautiful summer morning in London, I was on my Blackberry Messenger talking to a friend of mine about her status, which just so happened to be unrelated to a little dilemma she has going on at the moment.
The dilemma I’m sure a lot of us have faced before, a dilemma with its own pros and cons, and I can kinda relate to it too in more ways than one.

My friend, who shall remain nameless, was telling me about how she met a guy in the city, and he’s everything you expect from a “city boy” he’ “arrogant, loaded, fucking gorgeous and makes me feel like Carrie Bradshaw”
Now I don’t proclaim to be the all-knowing guru when it comes to women, I know my fair share, but what I do know is that all women want to feel like Carrie Bradshaw, right?

Her dilemma begins here because the possibility of getting back together with her ex-boyfriend of 5 years is also on the cards. Her ex-boyfriend who she says is “the guy who knows me better than I know myself” “very safe” and “makes me feel more like Charlotte in SATC”

So here’s the situation she’s in, she’s currently giving the city boy a trial run, see where things go, who knows? But at the same time, there is the lingering possibility of her reigniting something she shared with another person for 5 years of her life.
This is where I got the impetus for this post, the familiar Vs the unknown.
Do you take the well beaten path, the one you know every curve and pebble on, the path which you walked everyday, back and forth for 5 years of your life, blissfully unaware that one day it would end?
Or, do you choose to walk a new path, the road less travelled by many, the road that has surprises in store for you that you might never know unless you take a chance, because we’re all afraid of change sometimes.
I’m a little biased here, I must confess, I am a cheerleader for the unknown, so keep that in mind.

I think, that when it comes to new opportunity, it should always be considered, even though old circumstance still looms. To feel safe and secure is a wonderful thing, it always is, but we all know of pivotal points in our life where we can look back on them and know that THAT was the moment I decided to change my life, that was the moment I decided to truly experience what life is about, finding new ways of living, new ways of expanding your love, your life, your mind.
So what would you do?

I wanna leave you with one of my favourite quotes, I think it applies here:

“if people aren’t multiplying you, they’re dividing you, if they’re not adding to you, they’re subtracting from you – do the math”

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  1. I have written and deleted 3 different comments, but I kept on contradicting myself. I don't know what she should do... Hell, I don't even know what I should do... But you have provoked thought and that is good.

  2. I'm guessing if she doesn't ever step out into the unknown, how will she ever know if he's "the one"? Comfortable choices are too easy. I really think if she was that happy, she wouldn't even be questioning it in the first place, but hey-that's just my opinion!